Let their spirit remain

There's a song that quotes, "Forgive your lovers/But don't forget their names/And let their spirit remain." And that's how I feel at the end of Drayton's "Since There's No Help." It started as a simple break, that would heal cleanly. But it turned into a dull severing of feelings and history and it won't truly ever mend again. And this is true with all relationships, romantic or not. Nothing will ever be the same, because people have such a great impact on you, whether you like it or not. You won't forget everything, and sometimes it'll hurt. But you need to do something about it.

But collect your memories and learn from them and remember who you were, who you are, and who you want to be. Take those stories and write new ones with them, pages upon pages. Mold the impressions and impress upon others. Do what you need.

"Now, if thou wouldst, when all have given him over,

From death to life thou might’st him yet recover!"

Recover, but never fully heal.

Invisible perspective

While reading "The Yellow Wallpaper" it came to my attention that point of view and perspective is everything. The woman was clearly insane, but her husband didn't see it. He thinks he knows how to help her, but he just doesn't. He thinks he can fix her, but he can't.

That's the funny thing about mental illness, is that no one will ever know how you truly feel; how you're truly doing. Medical problems exist in x-rays and charts and IVs. But mental problems are invisible and show no trace and don't exist unless you tell someone.

You can think you know everything about a person, because you two are really good friends or you always said "No secrets". But it's just not a reality. And that's why point of view is so important, because from yours, they seem like they're doing fine. Everything seems normal and happy. And then they show you something that contradicts your thinking and suddenly you know everything's wrong and not right.

So we must value point of view. We must take it and cherish it and learn from it, so that we may help others, and not just help them in the ways we think need, but in the ways they show us they need.